A Conversation with the Reluctant Therapist

Estrangement between a parent and an adult child is not uncommon, but the pain, shame, guilt, and embarassment surrounding a rift in a family causes many to keep their separation a secret. What causes this kind of fissure between parents and children? Host Elizabeth Barrett speaks with psychologist and author Joshua Coleman about his work helping families reconnect.

 

For over 40 years mental health care has been dominated by the theme that "there is a pill for that" - in treating everything from grief to paranoid schizophrenia. The results have been life-saving for some and life destroying for others. It's in the failures to provide relief that has forced the helping professions to search for new treatments.

Our mental health is a reflection of the events, experiences, people and environment that we inhabit throughout our lifetime, and how we respond to them. But we are also impacted by the abuse, loss and grief suffered by our ancestors - known as cultural and historical trauma - which adds to the challenge of healing our psychic wounds. 

As another Valentine's approaches, along with the one-year mark of COVID lockdowns, many relationships are feeling the strain in an uncertain world. It's time for a couple's health check, and maybe even a little intimacy resuscitation. 

Last spring the pandemic brought the world - and the performing arts - to a halt.  But after months with the lights out, innovation, patience and creativity brought new forms of theater into our homes to restore some joy and connection to what makes life a little brighter. 

Pondering the divide between good and evil is really just another way that we divide ourselves from others. It may be that we cannot address the escalating rage and violence that we are experiencing in the world until we grapple with the anger and aggression that resides inside us all. 

Wine has long been connected to religious practices and communities. The act of drinking wine is at the heart of many rituals and celebrations. But what about the spiritual lives of those who grow the grapes, tend the vines and create the wine that is enjoyed by many? The reverence that goes into making wine may be key to the elixirs magic. 

It's time for the new year onslaught of diet, exercise and personal improvement advertisements, influencers and programs - encouraging us to get back in shape, to shed those shameful extra pounds and therefore, be better people. Year after year, people return to the scale, get back to the gym and praise the programs for their successes and hate themselves when they fail. But it's not you, it's the plan - they don't work. In this Conversation with the Reluctant Therapist, join Elizabeth Barrett and certified eating disorder dietician Marlena Tanner, as they talk about shutting out the noise and turning in toward ourselves with love and intuitive care.

Through the darkest of times, we find our way to the light—the promise of a new beginning, new life, new meaning and joy. In this epidsode of the Reluctant Therapist, Elizabeth Barrett has a conversation with Conscious Colors and Colors Aroma founder Constance Hart about her life's work, her dedication to personal wellness and growth, and how color aroma therapy can enhance your life.

Divorce rates are soaring during the pandemic. As the holidays approach, questions about how to gather, who can attend and where we will go may be even more challenging for families that have been restructured. Bird-nesting divorce is a new way that parents are working together to provide continued stability for their children. What does that look like?

Traditions are how we stay connected to each other, create memories and alleviate feelings of isolation and loneliness. Traditions define families. So, what are yours?

What the world needs now is love, sweet love. More than in any other time in recent history, right now we need to be opening our hearts to something greater than ourselves. True love, deep love, honest love, passionate love, compassionate love—love that makes us believe in life again. The world is more beautiful, hopeful and full of possibilities—it's hard to hate when you're bathed in love. Tune in for a conversation with the Reluctant Therapist and author, coach and consultant Bob Kamm about the power of love at every age in healing our deepest wounds.  

One of life's most profound moments is the birth of a child, becoming a mom and beginning the journey of raising a human. Tune in for a conversation with Reluctant Therapist Elizabeth Barrett about the changes we go through with the arrival of a baby, and the changes we're experiencing parenting through the pandemic. How has your parenting changed since the world locked down? 

As the world continues to feel fraught with fear and uncertainty, now is the perfect time to call upon our muses and ignite the latent artist we each have. Creativity is a sure way to calm an anxious mind, improve dampened spirits and direct our energy toward feelings of hope love. Listen to a conversation with Reluctant Therapist Elizabeth Barrett and singer, songwriter, author and psychologist Kelly Moreno. Hear about the healing power of making music and art and his journey releasing an album of personal songs in the midst of the pandemic.

In the face of stress, trauma and tragedy, learning to nurture our soul and lean in to our relationships is fundamental in maintaining our mental health and well-being. Tune in for a conversation with Reluctant Therapist Elizabeth Barrett and guest Dr. John Elfers about how we can find the energy to rekindle our motivation and tap into the tools available to calm our mind and improve our lives.

Nothing is better than meeting a stranger who then becomes a friend. Jim Christensen, from Ashton, Idaho, is an avid fly fisherman, expert welder, boat builder and open book—all the traits for a great conversation. Tune in for a show from the road with the Reluctant Therapist, Elizabeth Barrett, and meet Christensen, an ordinary person doing extraordinary things.

During this time of sheltering-in-place, managing addictions may seem like an impossible task. Yet our mental and physical health, our relationships, and futures depend on our ability to make peace with our greatest challenges. The Reluctant Therapist, Elizabeth Barrett, and her guest Dr. Michael McGee talk about coping with addictions through the time of COVID-19.

In this conversation with the Reluctant Therapist, Elizabeth Barrett speaks with guests Chris and Breanne Burkard. They speak candidly about their life, their struggles, their joys, and how they've learned to "make it work" for over a decade.

Can drinking wine deepen one's spiritual life and act as a surrogate for traditional religions? Host Elizabeth Barrett and her guest Dr. Stephen LLoyd-Moffett, professor of comparative religions and author of "The Spirit of Wine," discuss the rich history of wine.

This episode honors Women's History Month and International Women's Day, which celebrates the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. Join us for a conversation between the Reluctant Therapist, Elizabeth Barrett, and her guest Shelly Higginbotham, about the status of women in 2020 through a community and cultural lens. What is it that women need to thrive in all aspects of their lives?

Finding a cause to support—an issue to take action on and speak out for—is one of the keys to mental health and well-being. But with so many needs in the world, committing to one issue can be the biggest challenge. Busy environmental activist Kara Woodruff joins the Reluctant Therapist, Elizabeth Barrett, for a conversation on championing for better mental health. 

If you've ever experienced heartbreak, then it's easy to understand why some people choose to avoid love at any cost. But aside from all of the research supporting the mental, emotional and physical benefits associated with intimate connections, there are biological and evolutionary reasons why we are prone to falling hard for someone else. Tune in for a conversation with Elizabeth Barrett, the Reluctant Therapist, about the many roles love plays in our lives—and how to accept love as we find ourselves facing another Valentine's Day.

Are we experiencing another generational divide, just when we most need to pull together? Tune in for a conversation about the disconnect between parents and children of every generation and how to come together as we seem to be falling apart.

How quickly the world has changed in the early 21st century. But what really changes more—the world that we inhabit or the lens through which we view our world? Tune in for a conversation with Reluctant Therapist Elizabeth Barrett and award-winning photographer, author, filmmaker, adventurer, husband and father Chris Burkard, who has traveled the world documenting and sharing some of the last remaining wild places and encouraging others to get out and explore.

Navigating the complexity of modern health care can be overwhelming for anyone. But it's especially challenging for those who are aging and their family members who want to be supportive but don't know how to help. Tune in  Conversation with The Reluctant Therapist, Elizabeth Barrett and her guest, elder advocate Linda Beck, about creating a plan and understanding options when it comes to dealing with the medical world. 

This is a great time to reset expectations for yourself and your family. A clean slate, a letting go of past disappointments, an opportunity to correct failed strategies and to embrace parenting and relationships from a new perspective. Tune in for a conversation with Reluctant Therapist Elizabeth Barrett and Out-of-the-Box Parenting founder Megan Englert, about utilizing the start of this decade to set new goals. 

Dreams are considered a window into our soul, our psyche and our deepest desires—but how to interpret these messages is hotly debated. One of the challenges is deciphering the language of symbolism, images and characters that inhabit our dreams. Tune for a conversation with Reluctant Therapist Eizabeth Barrett and author, Jungian practitioner and dream analyst Dr. Laura Grace, about her groundbreaking work in harnessing the power of dreams. 

Anxiety is the most common of mental health issues, affecting 40 million adults each year. Although there are many treatments available, long term success can be elusive and medications are often unreliable. Tune in Tuesday for a conversation with Reluctant Therapist Elizabeth Barrett and guest Breanne Burkard about the promising outcomes associated with alternative therapies.

Being of service to others by giving of our time, or our money, is one of the foundations for maintaining our mental health. On this Giving Tuesday tune in for a convesation with The Reluctant Therapist, Elizabeth Barrett, for a discussion about how we choose to be charitable and what it does for our well being. What organizations do you support, and why? 

If it is in our nature as humans to err, then why is it so difficult to forgive? It may be because we are conditioned to focus on our negatives. In an effort to make space for giving thanks, it might be time to let go of stale shame, guilt and anger. Listen to this conversation with Elizabeth Barrett, the Reluctant Therapist, about recognizing the good in ourselves and others and learning to be okay with gratitude.

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